KEINDAHAN HANYA MILIK ALLAH

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Tak Ada Gading Yang Tak Retak

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If Tomorow Never Come

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Instropeksi Diri

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Hidup untuk mati, Mati untuk hidup

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Kamis, 24 Oktober 2013

Sholat Sunah Dhuha


Sholat dhuha atau sholat sunah dhuha merupakan sholat sunah yang dikerjakan pada waktu dhuha. Waktu dhuha merupakan waktu dimana matahari telah terbit atau naik kurang lebih 7 hasta hingga terasa panas menjelang shalat dzhur. atau sekitar jam 7 sampai jam 11, tentunya setiap daerah berbeda, tergantung posisi matahari pada daerah masing-masing. Sholat dhuha sebaiknya dikerjakan pada seperempat kedua dalam sehari, atau sekitar pukul sembilan pagi. Sholat dhuha dilakukan secara sendiri atau tidak berjamaah (Munfarid)

Tata cara melaksanakan sholat dhuha
1.  Membaca Niat (Ushallii sunnatadh-dhuhaa rak’ataini lillaahi ta’aalaa)
2.  Membaca surah Al-Fatihah
3.  Membaca surah Asy-Syamsu (QS:91) pada rakaat pertama, atau cukup dengan membaca Qulya (QS:109) jika tidak hafal surah Asy-Syamsu itu.
 

4.  Membaca surah Adh-Dhuha (QS:93) pada rakaat kedua, atau cukup dengan   membaca Qulhu (QS:112) jika tidak hafal surah Adh-Dhuha.

5.  Rukuk, iktidal, sujud, duduk dua sujud, tasyahud dan salam adalah sama sebagaimana tata cara pelaksanaan shalat fardhu.
6.  Menutup shalat Dhuha dengan berdoa. Inipun bukan sesuatu yang wajib, hanya saja berdoa adalah kebiasaan yang sangat baik dan dianjurkan sebagai tanda penghambaan kita kepada ALLAH.

Doa Sholat Dhuha

Versi Arab :
اللَّهُمَّ إِنَّ الضُّحَاءَ ضُحَاءُكَ وَالْبَهَاءَ بَهَائُكَ وَالْجَمَالَ جَمَالُكَ وَالْقُوَّةَ قُوَّتُكَ وَالْقُدْرَةَ قُدْرَتُكَ وَالْعِصْمَةَ عِصْمَتُكَ . اللَّهُمَّ إِنْ كَانَ رِزْقِي فِي الْسَمَاءِ فَأَنْزِلْهُ وَإِنْ كَانَ فِيْ الأَرْضِ فأَخْرِجْهُ وَإِنْ كَانَ مَعْسِرًا فَيَسِّرْهُ وَإِنْ كَانَ حَرَامًا فَطَهِّرْهُ وَإِنْ كَانَ بَعِيْدًا فَقَرِّبْهُ بِحَقِّ ضُحَائِكَ وَجَمَالِكَ وَقُوَّتِكَ وَقُدْرَتِكَ آتِنِي مَا أَتَيْتَ عِبَادَكَ الصَّالِحِيْنَ


Veri Latin :
Do'a Shalat Dhuha Latin :

ALLAAHUMMA INNADH-DHUHAA ‘A DHUHAA ‘UKA - WAL BAHAA ‘A BAHAA
‘UKA – WAL JAMAALA JAMAALUKA – WAL QUWWATA QUWWATUKA –
WALQUDRATA QUDRATUKA – WAL ‘ISHMATA ‘ISHMATUKA.

ALLAAHUMMA IN KAANA RIZQII FIS-SAMAA ‘I FA ANZILHU – WA IN
KAANA FIL ARDI FA AKHRIJHU – WA IN KAANA MU’ASSARAN FA
YASSIRHU – WA IN KAANA HARAAMAN FATHAHHIRHU – WA IN KAANA
BA’IIDAN FA QARRIBHU,

BIHAQQI DHUHAA ‘IKA, WA BAHAA ‘IKA, WAJAMAALIKA, WA QUWWATIKA, WA  QUDRATIKA. AATINII MAA ‘ATAITA ‘IBAADAKASH-SHAALIHIIN.

ARTINYA:
“Wahai ALLAH, bahwasanya waktu Dhuha itu waktu Dhuha-MU – dan kecantikan
adalah kecantikan-MU – dan keindahan adalah keindahan-MU – dan kekuatan
adalah kekuatan-MU – dan kekuasaan adalah kekuasaan-MU - dan perlindungan
itu adalah perlindungan-MU.

Wahai ALLAH, jikalau rejekiku masih diatas langit, maka turunkanlah – Dan
jikalau ada didalam bumi maka keluarkanlah – dan jikalau sukar maka
mudahkanlah – dan jika haram maka sucikanlah - dan jikalau masih jauh maka
dekatkanlah

Barokallohuliwalakum semoga dengan diberikannya tuntunan tata cara sholat dhuha beserta doa sholat dhuha di atas dapat menjadi ilmu yang bermanfaat bagi saya khususnya umumnya bagi anda semuanya.
Keutamaan Sholat Dhuha
  • Keutamaan Sholat Dhuha sedekah bagi seluruh persendian tubuh manusia dari abu dzar al-ghifari ra, ia berkata bahwa nabi muahammad saw bersabda: “di setiap sendiri seorang dari kamu terdapat sedekah, setiap tasbih (ucapan subhanallah) adalah sedekah, setiap tahmid (ucapan alhamdulillah) adalah sedekah, setiap tahlil (ucapan lailahaillallah) adalah sedekah, setiap takbir adalah sedekah, menyuruh kepada kebaikan adalah sedekah, mencegah dari kemungkaran adalah sedekah. dan dua rakaat dhuha diberi pahala” (hr muslim).
  • “barangsiapa yang berwudhu’, kemudian masuk ke dalam masjid untuk melakukan shalat dhuha, dia lah yang paling dekat tujuanannya (tempat perangnya), lebih banyak ghanimahnya (keuntungan) dan lebih cepat kembalinya.”(shahih al-targhib: 666) 
  • “Barang siapa shalat Dhuha 12 rakaat, Allah akan membuatkan untuknya istana disurga”
    (H.R. Tarmiji dan Abu Majah)
  •  “innallaa `azza wa jalla yaqulu: yabna adama akfnini awwala al-nahar bi’arba`i raka`at ukfika bihinna akhira yaumika” (sesungguhnya allah `azza wa jalla berkata: “wahai anak adam, cukuplah bagi-ku empat rakaat di awal hari, maka aku akan mencukupimu di sore harimu”).
  • “barang siapa yang keluar dari rumahnya dalam keadaan bersuci untuk melaksanakan shalat wajib, maka pahalanya seperti seorang yang melaksanakan haji. barang siapa yang keluar untuk melaksanakan shalat dhuha, maka pahalanya seperti orang yang melaksanakan `umrah…” (shahih al-targhib: 673).

Rabu, 23 Oktober 2013

If Tomorow Never Comes

If Tomorrow Never Comes
by Ronan keating
Sometimes late at night
I lie awake and watch her sleeping
She's lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And the thought crosses my mind
If I never wake up in the morning
Would she ever doubt the way I feel
About her in my heart

If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes

'Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel

If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes

So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes


Begitu mendalam isi lagu ini, menyentuh hati.
 Begitu berharganya orang-orang yang menghangatkan suasana rumah.
Buat Istriku Tercinta, Betty.
Buat Anakku Tersayang, Rafa.
Jika kesempatan kedua tak pernah ada
Kan kuberikan apa yang aku punya, aku bisa, aku bahagiakanmu
Di satu kesempatan ini..
Jika esok tak kan datang
Ketahuilah kalian cinta ku satu hingga akhir.

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Sometimes late at night
I lie awake and watch her sleeping
She's lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And the thought crosses my mind
If I never wake up in the morning
Would she ever doubt the way I feel
About her in my heart
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
'Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes

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If Tomorrow Never Comes

Sometimes late at night
I lie awake and watch her sleeping
She's lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And the thought crosses my mind
If I never wake up in the morning
Would she ever doubt the way I feel
About her in my heart
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
'Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes

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If Tomorrow Never Comes

Sometimes late at night
I lie awake and watch her sleeping
She's lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And the thought crosses my mind
If I never wake up in the morning
Would she ever doubt the way I feel
About her in my heart
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
'Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes

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If Tomorrow Never Comes

Sometimes late at night
I lie awake and watch her sleeping
She's lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And the thought crosses my mind
If I never wake up in the morning
Would she ever doubt the way I feel
About her in my heart
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
'Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes

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If Tomorrow Never Comes

Sometimes late at night
I lie awake and watch her sleeping
She's lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And the thought crosses my mind
If I never wake up in the morning
Would she ever doubt the way I feel
About her in my heart
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
'Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes

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If Tomorrow Never Comes

Sometimes late at night
I lie awake and watch her sleeping
She's lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And the thought crosses my mind
If I never wake up in the morning
Would she ever doubt the way I feel
About her in my heart
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
'Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes

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I lie awake and watch her sleeping
She's lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And the thought crosses my mind
If I never wake up in the morning
Would she ever doubt the way I feel
About her in my heart
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
'Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes

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If Tomorrow Never Comes

Sometimes late at night
I lie awake and watch her sleeping
She's lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And the thought crosses my mind
If I never wake up in the morning
Would she ever doubt the way I feel
About her in my heart
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
'Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes

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If Tomorrow Never Comes

Sometimes late at night
I lie awake and watch her sleeping
She's lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And the thought crosses my mind
If I never wake up in the morning
Would she ever doubt the way I feel
About her in my heart
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
'Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes

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If Tomorrow Never Comes

Sometimes late at night
I lie awake and watch her sleeping
She's lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And the thought crosses my mind
If I never wake up in the morning
Would she ever doubt the way I feel
About her in my heart
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
'Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel
If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes
So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes

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Selasa, 22 Oktober 2013

Happy birthday Rafa Afsheen Abyyasa

 SELAMAT ULANG TAHUN RAFA AFSHEEN ABYYASA Ke-1 Tahun

Hari ini..
Hari yang kutunggu...

Bertambah satu tahun...
Usiamu...
Bahagiakan aku...

Rafa...
Anak yang sholeh...
Suka berbakti ma orang Tua... 
Yang ingin aku...
beri padamu ...
Do'a s'tulus hati....
 
Smoga Tuhan....
Melindungi kamu...
Serta tercapai semua angan dan cita citamu ......
Mudah mudahan diberi umur panjang .....
Sehat selama lamanya...
 
Selamat Ulang tahun ...

 Selamat Ulang tahun ...   

(Sayang, hari ini  selasa 22102013 genap berusia 1 Tahun. Begitu banyak kisah senang, bahagia, kesal, susah sudah kita lewati bersama. Pap n mam, sayang banget ma Rafa. Semoga Allah senantiasa mengabulkan doa kami untuk menjadikanmu seperti bintang yang bermanfaat karna kemuliaanNYa. Semoga engkau jadi anak sholeh, sayang pada keluarga, taat kepada Agama, berahlak mulia dan diberi kebaikan dunia-akhirat dan dijauhkan dari kejelekan dunia-akhirat. Amin Allahuma Amin)











 wahhh... nek ngguyu merem...wekekekekekek

 Rafa gaya Ronaldo...hehehehehe




 Hahahahaha.... jek wutuh merem...hehehehe

Minggu, 20 Oktober 2013

Buatku yang pemarah


Tangan ini mendadak lemas...
Tubuh ini serasa gemetar...
Ketika kutemukan, kubaca, kuresapi, dan kupahami...
"pemarah"
Ku takut akan teguran Illahi...
Kan kutata diri ini, keluarga ini demi keselamatan dihadapan Illahi..
Semoga hari esok datang lagi...

  • PEMARAH






"(yaitu) orang-orang yang menafkahkan (hartanya), baik di waktu lapang maupun sempit, dan orang-orang yang menahan amarahnya dan mema'afkan (kesalahan) orang. Allah menyukai orang-orang yang berbuat kebajikan." [Q.S. Ali ‘Imran (3): 134]



عن أبي هريرة t أن رسول الله r قال: «ليس الشديد بالصرعة, إنما الشديد الذي يملك نفسه عند الغضبِ» [ رواه البخاري ومسلم ]



 
Dari Abu Hurairah semoga Allah meridhainya, bahwasannya Rasulallah Shalallahu 'alaihi wa sallam bersabda: "Bukanlah orang yang kuat, orang yang selalu menang gulat  , akan tetapi orang yang kuat adalah orang yang mampu menahan dirinya ketika marah".  HR Bukhari dan Muslim.



Maksudnya ialah kuat dalam mengalahkan lawannya, dan yang di maksud di dalam hadits ini bukanlah pujian padanya, walaupun ada sisi pujiannya kalau berada pada tempatnya.   
Akan tetapi yang di maksud adalah dia bisa menguasai jiwanya di saat dia sanggat marah, dan bisa berhias dengan sifat lembut dan pemaaf.
      
Dan hadits ini juga menunjukan atas terpujinya sifat lemah lembut dan tercelanya sifat pemarah, karena hal itu bisa mengantarkan seseorang kepada kebinasaan. Dan dalam sebuah riwayat dikisahkan ada seorang laki-laki yang datang kepada Nabi Shalallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, lalu meminta wasiat. Maka beliau bersabda: "Jangan marah". Orang tersebut mengulanginya berkali-kali, dan beliau tetap bersabda: "Jangan marah". HR Bukhari. 

Kata marah berasal dari kata: ghadlaba-yaghdlubu, artinya "marah".
al-ghadlbu dalam bentuk isim berarti lembu, singa, al-ghadlbu berarti "kemarahan".
Sedangkan al-ghudluub artinya ular yang jahat.
Al-Ghadhab ialah "Perubahan yg terjadi ketika mendidihnya darah di dalam hati untuk meraih kepuasan, apa yang ada di dalam dada ".
Sebagaimana juga ada sebuah riwayat yang mengatakan: "Bahwa seorang muslim yang bersikap lemah lembut akan mendapatkan derajatnya seperti orang yang selalu berpuasa di siang hari dan shalat di malam hari".

  • WANITA/ISTRI PEMARAH


Sebagai manusia, wanita memang bisa kesal dan Marah baik itu disebabkan suami ataupun hal-hal lainnya. Namun sebagai istri, wanita juga dituntut untuk menjaga sikap di hadapan suaminya. Ia harus mengontrol emosinya agar tidak tumpah. Namun alih-alih meredam emosinya, tak sedikit istri yang justru menjadikan suami sebagai pelampiasan kemarahan, bahkan sampai pada taraf mencacinya.
Seorang suami adalah sayyid atau tuan bagi istrinya, sebagaimana tersebut dalam firman Allah k:
“Dan keduanya (Yusuf dan istri Al Aziz) mendapati sayyid (tuan/suami) si wanita di depan pintu…” (Yusuf: 25)
Karena suami sebagai tuan maka kedudukannya demikian agung bagi istrinya sebagaimana agungnya sang tuan bagi budak sahayanya. Tidak heran bila Rasul n yang mulia n sampai bertitah:

لاَ يَصْلُحُ لِبَشَرٍ أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِبَشَرٍ، وَلَوْ صَلَحَ لِبَشَرٍ أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِبَشَرٍ لَأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا مِنْ عَظَمِ حَقِّهِ عَلَيْهَا، وَالَّذِي نَفْسِيْ بِيَدِهِ لَوْ كَانَ مِنْ قَدَمِهِ إِلَى مَفْرَقِ رَأْسِهِ قَرْحَةٌ تَجْرِي بِالْقَيْحِ وَالصَّدِيْدِ، ثُمَّ اسْتَقْبَلَتْهُ فَلَحِسَتْهُ مَا أَدَّّتْ حَقَّهُ

“Tidaklah pantas bagi seorang manusia untuk sujud kepada manusia yang lain. Seandainya pantas/boleh bagi seseorang untuk sujud kepada seorang yang lain niscaya aku perintahkan istri untuk sujud kepada suaminya dikarenakan besarnya hak suaminya terhadapnya. Demi Dzat yang jiwaku berada di tangan-Nya, seandainya pada telapak kaki sampai belahan rambut suaminya ada luka/borok yang mengucurkan nanah bercampur darah, kemudian si istri menghadap suaminya lalu menjilati luka/borok tersebut niscaya ia belum purna menunaikan hak suaminya.” (HR. Ahmad 3/159 dari Anas bin Malik z, dishahihkan Al-Haitsami 4/9, Al-Mundziri 3/55, dan Abu Nu’aim dalam Ad-Dala’il, 137. Lihat catatan kaki Musnad Al-Imam Ahmad 10/513, Darul Hadits, Al-Qahirah).

Abu Umamah z menyampaikan hadits Rasulullah :

ثَلاَثَةٌ لاَ تُجَاوِزُ صَلاَتُهُمْ آذَانَهُمْ: الْعَبْدُ الْآبِقُ حَتىَّ يَرْجِعَ وَامْرَأَةٌ بَاتَتْ وَزَوْجُهَا عَلَيْهَا سَاخِطٌ، وَإِمَامُ قَوْمٍ وَهُمْ لَهُ كَارِهُوْنَ

“Ada tiga golongan yang shalat mereka tidak melewati telinga-telinga mereka3, yaitu budak yang melarikan diri dari tuannya sampai ia kembali kepada tuannya, istri yang bermalam dalam keadaan suaminya marah terhadapnya, dan seseorang yang mengimami suatu kaum dalam keadaan mereka tidak suka kepadanya.” (HR. At-Tirmidzi no. 360, dihasankan Al-Imam Al-Albani t dalam Shahih Sunan At-Tirmidzi, Al-Misykat no. 1122, Shahihul Jami’ no. 3057)
Ibnu Umar c berkata dari Nabi :

اثْنَانِ لاَ تُجَاوِزُ صَلاَتُهُمَا رُؤُوْسَهُمَا: عَبْدٌ آبِقٌ مِنْ مَوَالِيْهِ حَتىَّ يَرْجِعَ، وَامْرَأَة ٌعَصَتْ زَوْجَهَا حَتَّى تَرْجِعَ

“Ada dua golongan yang shalat mereka tidak melewati kepala-kepala mereka, yaitu budak yang melarikan diri dari tuannya sampai ia kembali kepada tuannya dan istri yang durhaka kepada suaminya hingga ia kembali taat.” (HR.Al Hakim dalam Al-Mustadrak 4/191, Ath-Thabarani dalam Al-Ausath no. 3628 dan Ash-Shaghir no. 478, dishahihkan Al-Imam Al-Albani t dalam Shahihul Jami’ no. 136 dan Ash-Shahihah no. 288 )

Doa kejelekan berupa laknat para malaikat yang doa mereka mustajab pun dapat dituai seorang istri yang membuat marah suaminya, sebagaimana disebutkan dalam hadits Abu Hurairah z dari Rasulullah n:

إِذَا دَعَا الرَّجُلُ امْرَأَتَهُ إِلَى فِرَاشِهِ فَأَبَتْ أَنْ تَجِيْئَ، فَبَاتَ غَضْبَان عَلَيْهَا لَعَنَتْهَا الْمَلاَئِكَةُ حَتَّى تُصْبِحَ

“Apabila seorang suami memanggil istrinya ke tempat tidurnya, namun si istri menolak untuk datang. Lantas si suami bermalam dalam keadaan marah kepada istrinya tersebut, niscaya para malaikat melaknat si istri sampai ia berada di pagi hari.” (HR. Al-Bukhari no. 5193)
Karenanya, janganlah para istri suka membuat marah suaminya. Tetapi carilah keridhaannya dalam kebaikan. Karena seperti kata Rasulullah n:

فَانْظُرِيْ أَيْنَ أَنْتِ مِنْهُ، فَإنَّمَا هُوَ جَنَّتُكِ وَنارُكِ

“Lihatlah di mana keberadaanmu dalam pergaulanmu dengan suamimu, karena dia adalah surga dan nerakamu.”4
Wallahu ta’ala a’lam bish-shawab.


Sifat pemarah adalah merupakan satu sifat yang sangat dikeji oleh Islam. Ianya berlaku mungkin disebabkan beberapa faktor, seperti iri hati, dendam dan merasa senang orang yang dimarahi itu tertunduk dan menerima aibnya. Marah juga timbul kerana takabur, sombong dan tidak boleh menerima kenyataan. Secara halusnya bolehlah dikatakan pemarah adalah salah satu sifat yang dinyalakan bahangnya oleh iblis laknatullah. Selalunya orang yang dimarahi itu akan menerima keaiban dan ada kalanya tidak diberi ruang untuk menyatakan kebenaran dan hakikat yang sebenarnya.

Oleh itulah, menahan perasaan marah adalah satu perkara yang amat disanjung oleh Allah SWT. Allah SWT telah berfirman, maksudnya,“ Dan bersegeralah kamu kepada ampunan dari-Mu dan kepada syurga yang luasnya seluas langit dan bumi yang disediakan untuk orang–orang yang bertaqwa. Ia itu orang–orang yang menafkahkan hartanya, baik di waktu lapang maupun sempit, dan orang–orang yang menahan amarahnya dan memaafkan kesalahan orang lain. Allah SWT  amat menyukai orang–orang yang berbuat kebaikan ”. Ali Imran ayat 133-134

Jelasnya, ayat ini menunjukkan kepada kita bahwa di antara manusia yang bakal menghuni syurga ialah mereka yang dapat mengawal dan menahan kemarahan. Sebab itulah, para ulama telah menyatakan bahawa mahkota seorang lelaki terletak kepada sifat sabar. Maknanya kalau seseorang lelaki itu hilang sifat sabar, lalu melenting dan menghina seorang lain, hilanglah maruahnya sebagai seorang lalaki. Sifat pemarah juga boleh memperbanyakkan permusuhan dan menghalang keruntuhan serta perpaduan masyarakat.
Oleh sebab yang demikian, apabila timbul perasaan marah, segeralah berwuduk dan bersembahyang sunat 2 rakat, mohon pertunjuk dan pimpinan Allah SWT agar diredakan marah tersebut. Dalam hal ini, Rasulullah SAW telah bersabda, maksudnya, “Barangsiapa yang dapat menahan marah ketika ia boleh meneruskannya, niscaya ditetapkan oleh Allah SWT hatinya pada hari kiamat dengan sentosa dan aman serta penuh keimanan”.